What's nice about livin' on the flip side of 50 is - at about this point in your life, there's most probably children and grandchildren old enough to keep the traditions going that were established, with a little encouragement from mom! Since no one can make the pumpkin pies and the bread stuffing like "mom" - mom gets to make the pumpkin pies and the bread stuffing. The one question every year however, in our family is "where" will we hold our holiday celebration?
Thirty years ago, when our children were growing faster than we realized, - two of them were in college and one was in junior high, we decided to move from our big 3 story home in the city to a small cottage in the suburbs, and one at a time each of them married and started their own families. While growing up, my parents, their grandparents, were where it was at when the holidays came! My mother was a "super-mom" and a "super-grandma" where the holidays were concerned! - no one could do the holidays like she could -Thanksgiving, Christmas nor Easter ! My brothers and sisters and their families all came home to mom's for the holidays also and we all loved it! Mom was generous and she made the holidays very very special for us! After my dad passed away, our tradition changed , and we all felt the change, although no one would admit it . Each of our little families tried to create new traditions, but the yearning for the old ones always remained. My children today ages 45, 50 and 52, still long for "the good old days" at Nana's -Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter!
Mom was with us til she was 91 but things were never really the same after my dad passed away. My eldest daughter has the largest accommodations, and so our immediate family has gravitated presently to her home for the holidays. My husbands and my little cottage is not adequate for our 16 family members. My sisters and brothers (one of them has since passed away) have created their own traditions and I'm sure they have the same longings we do.
It's remarkable the bond that a tradition can have. No matter how hard you try to create what was, there is still that longing for what was which cannot be recaptured - except in memory!
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